Why this article?

Too often, women’s self-defense is caricatured: people think it’s just about yelling, hitting, or running away. In reality, it’s much more complex.

A Different Perspective: Moving Beyond Stereotypes

Through the testimonies of experts, survivors, and trainers, we explore what it really means to “defend oneself” when you’re a woman.

“She didn’t react, so she agreed.”
False.

Such statements, heard far too often, reflect a deep misunderstanding of survival mechanisms.

Freezing (also known as the “freeze” response) is an automatic physical reaction, just like fight or flight. It’s neither a choice nor a sign of weakness.

In the event of an assault, the brain can literally shut down. This reaction affects up to 70% of sexual violence victims (Source: INSERM).

Yet it remains widely misunderstood, even judged.

What the Numbers Say: A Silenced Reality

• 94,000 women report being raped or almost raped each year in France (INSEE).
• Fewer than 10% file a complaint.
• Less than 1% of assaults result in a conviction (Source: Public Sénat, 2024).
• In over 8 out of 10 cases, the attacker is someone the victim knows.

These numbers show the real question isn’t “Why didn’t she fight back?” but rather “Why is she still the one who has to explain herself?”

Self-Defense: Much More Than Throwing Punches

Today, many trainers offer a broader and more realistic vision of women’s self-defense:

• Saying no clearly, without apologizing.
• Setting verbal boundaries.
• Leaving without guilt.
• Practicing simple, effective techniques.
• Working on posture, breathing, and mindset.
• Knowing your rights, your options, and how to ask for help.

As instructor Céline puts it:

“Self-defense isn’t necessarily about hitting. It’s about reclaiming your body, your emotions, and your choices.”

A Tool for Empowerment and Sisterhood

Women’s self-defense classes are also spaces for collective healing:

• Sharing experiences.
• Mutual support and empowerment.
• Regaining confidence after trauma.

Some women, like Anne-Françoise, 72, describe it as a turning point in their lives:

“I realized I could still learn to defend myself. It’s a strength no one can take from me.”

Conclusion: Yes, Women Can Defend Themselvesm, Just Not Like in the Movies

Self-defense doesn’t always mean fighting back.

Sometimes, it’s saying no.
Or not answering.
Or running away.
Or simply surviving.

It’s also demanding the right not to always be on alert.

Women’s self-defense is a skill, but also a right.